It’s OK not to feel connected anymore with your school/college friends
its better to acknowledge it and express it, then to slowly drift apart and live with the guilt “did I do it right?”
The world will do everything to dictate a timeline for your life
Finish studies by 24.
Get married by 27.
Kids by 30.
If you listen to the world, you will live their life. Not yours.
You don’t have to be an extrovert to win.
Extroversion/Introversion has nothing to do with people. Instead its how you gain energy. From people or from within.
If you are an introvert, strengthen yourself instead of wanting to change yourself.
Most life plans do not work out. And thats part of the plan!
Things will change. You will change. The world will change. And thus your plan will also change.
When they do, embrace the new you. Its telling you something.
Its the only decade where
- You are big enough to take big risks, and
- have a life long enough to recover if those risks do not work out.
Take Risks
you will be surprise at how many of them work out. Or how easily you get over them.
No one expect you to be sorted. But you will believe you are the only one who is not!
The most binding trait of all those in their 20s, is that all of them are trying to make sense of their life. No one has it figured!
Everyone in their 20s things they are too old.
But you are not old. You are really really early. You are just getting started. You have time to figure things out.
The pressure of time is self imposed.
Life will move really fast. Don’t let it
Do not live your life as if its happening to you. Eat. Work. Sleep. Repeat.
Pursue hobbies, learn, connect with people, work out, read, exercise, meditate, think, wake up/sleep on time, do things outside of work. LIVE LIFE!
Don’t make money to spend. Make it to retire.
If you earn to spend, you will be forced to earn all your life.
If you earn to free yourself from earning, you will be able to do whatever you want to do.
For the rest of your life!
You are responsible ONLY for your happiness. Not that of others.
Other people’s baggage is theirs to deal with.
Acknowledge them.
Empathize with them.
Support them.
But allow them to work things out on their own.
FOMO will always lead to short term decisions
True for money.
True for career.
True for relationship.
True for life!
If people like you, life will be much easier
Be kind.
Be generous.
Compliment people.
Help people.
Do it for no returns.
And you will get massive returns.
Be aware of what you are feeling
20s is when you are feeling the most. Because so much around us is constantly changing.
Don’t try to control your emotions. Instead be aware of them.
Why am I angry/sad/scared/excited/happy/nervous?
Make your mind your friend. Not enemy.
Your goal are merely desires
Goals are weird.
We hit them – feel great.
We don’t hit them – feel shitty.
But when we set them, there is no basis for it.
Only a desire.
Don’t set goals.
Set habits.
And they will take you far great goals.
you could have set for yourself.
Talking about people will never take you far. Talking about the ideas will
Surround yourself with people who talk ideas.
Take yourself out from circles where you are simply talking about people!
A person isn’t nice because they are nice to you.
They are nice because they are nice to everyone, especially those they don’t need to be nice to!
Notice yourself when you start falling for people, just because they are nice to you!
Observe them how they treat everyone.
Keep asking questions, even if you think it annoys people
Only those who ask questions move forward.
Rest everyone accepts the answer society has given them!
Your self-esteem is yours to nurture. Not for the others to define
But others will define it for you.
And you will outsource your self-esteem to them.
Until the day they leave and you will be left with no self-esteem.
Love yourself.
Respect yourself.
Nurture yourself.
Don’t optimize for money. Optimize for learning
This decade: if you learn at the expense of money, you will learn a lot more in the future than you imagined.
If you earn at the expense of learning, you will have to keep earning and learning for the rest of your life!
If you abuse your body, you wouldn’t realize the harm until much later
Don’t treat your body as a waste bin.
Don’t ignore the signs.
Don’t postpone healing yourself to tomorrow.
You shouldn’t need an accident to tell you that you are damaged.
The 20’s is the defining decade for most of us
It is in this decade we find our most meaningful relationships, we start our career, we handle money, we manage our own selves and we handle people at scale.
it is also the decade we are least trained for!
I learnt most of this 20 lessons the hard way. And much later in life.
I wish someone has sat me down and explain the process of growing up!
I wish the was a “Guide to growing up” published somewhere.
Your 20’s are your “selfish” years. It’s a decade to immerse yourself into every single thing possible.
– Kyoko Escamilia
Be selfish with your time, and all the aspects of you.
Tinker with shit, travel, explore, love a lot, love a little, and never touch the ground.